Wednesday, 27 June 2012

The Incomparable Nora Ephron

Nora Ephron died yesterday. In a world where celebrity is chased and  mediocrity endorsed, she was fiercely intelligent, hysterically, pee-your pants-hold-your-sides funny and always, always, up for breaking the rules.
She was an advocate for women every time she opened her mouth.

She wrote women like no other. Better known for When Harry Met Sally, Heartburn, Sleepless in Seattle, Julie and Julia and Silkwood, her books, essays and blog posts are what I will miss the most.

I Feel Bad About My Neck is one of my favourite books of all time - and simply a must-read.

'When your children are teenagers, it's important to have a dog so that someone in the house is happy to see you.'

At her infamous commencement speech at Wellesley's Class of '96 she said:

'The Wonderbra is not a step forward for women. Nothing that hurts that much is a step forward for women.'


'Whatever you choose, however many roads you travel, I hope that you choose not to be a Lady. I hope that you will find some way to break the rules and make a little trouble out there. And I also hope that you will choose to make some of that trouble on behalf of women.'

Obituaries on Nora are here and here.

Her books are here. 

Dive in.


  1. In this day and age where our daughters have role models such as Cheryl Cole and Rihanna it is a shame that Nora won't be around to show young women the way

    RIP Nora

  2. Truly sad news to hear today. I would love for more females (and males) of all ages to know and appreciate other women of such depth, humour and intelligence, who don't believe 'feminist' is a bad word. I just saw this list too, of the things Nora would miss and wouldn't miss. It is witty and touching. Nora you will be missed.

  3. Yes, Isabella, the list is incredibly touching especially now. Caroline, well said and thank you so much for making the obituaries and book lists so easily available for us. She touched more lives than she could possibly have known. RIP.

    Sinead x

  4. Beautiful woman with a heart of gold. Thank you for sharing her bio of films, quotes and books. I am going to buy a few for my kindle. Love the quote of choosing not to be a lady, at times we all need to stop being fearful and talk truth.

  5. So sad to hear about her passing! She was such an inspiration for not settling and not doing what is wanted and expected of you. I identity more with her than any of the "celebrities" my age. She said what she was thinking and didn't have any regrets and she was damn funny! Now that's how you live your life! I love that line about not being a lady. I remember when I was a teenager saying something rather rude and my mother telling me that that wasn't very lady-like. I screamed back that maybe I wasn't a lady! :) Kind of proud of that moment now!

  6. Her book Heartburn is one of my favourites. So so funny.